Convincing Spouse to Agree With Collaborative Divorce

If you are sure with your decision of ending the marriage, it is highly recommended that you get a collaborative divorce. This is the kind of divorce which allows you and your spouse to enter into some settlements or agreements to avoid court litigation. In collaborative divorce, there is still a need to hire the services of lawyers who will assist you in all the negotiations that you will take. This legal professional can prepare the necessary terms and conditions that you want to impose to your spouse. At the same time, your partner can also get his or her own lawyer for the demands he or she wants to impose on you.

“Is your partner willing to get a collaborative divorce?” This is the next question that you should ask yourself. No matter how willing you are to settle some matters, if your spouse does not want to have one, then all your efforts will go to waste. Hence, the duty to convince him or her is on you. As early as possible, talk to your husband or wife and share the benefits of getting a collaborative divorce instead of seeking for judicial redress.

In convincing the other party, you can present the different advantages should both of you agree on certain issues without court intervention. You can also give an enumeration of the possible disadvantages for failure to get a collaborative divorce. If you are the party that initiated the separation, it is better if you do not bring up the idea of having a collaborative divorce immediately. Give your partner a time to process what is going on between the two of you. Make him or her feel that your intentions are pure and that you only want the best outcome for the two of you. You may also include in your conversation the best interests of your children.