How to Emotionally Survive a Divorce
Latrice Knighton is a member of the Sterling Law Offices partner team and an award-winning divorce attorney, life coach, and speaker. She helps clients resolve their problems by using legal techniques and smart tactics learned through decades of experience as well as helping clients by offering the best practical advice.
Emotions run deep when one goes through a divorce; anger, sadness, pain. Acknowledging and controlling those emotions are what leads to the return to normalcy.
Many attempt to push past their emotions and just deal with the divorce in it's legal form, yet many never truly get over the emotions associated with this transition. Professionals in psychology all agree that facing these emotions will help with relations between the divorcing parties as well as any children involved.
Therapists can be very useful when going through this process, both as a coach for parenting situations and as someone to help you power through these hardships. Emotions can be hard to handle and these professionals can help you clear your mind and focus on the most important thing: your health.
Today, I interview Eric Ehrke from The Ommani Center about how to navigate through these turbulent times to a better tomorrow.
How do professionals in your position help individuals/couples in your everyday work?
We listen to what their goals are and we become and advocate for them to achieve those goals. In doing so, we can assist them with planning for the long term while addressing obstacles and hardships.
What is your goal when helping clients with their emotions?
My goal is to help them by teaching them how to recognize and approach their emotions. Many of my clients feel a huge relief once they are able to face their emotions head on and respond appropriately.
What is the most typical goal that you see clients approach you with?
Most clients just want to survive the experience of ending a relationship. They want to be able to handle all of the different emotions whirling around their hearts before they start seeing those same corrosive emotions seep into their day to day lives.
What is your role as a coach during a collaborative divorce process?
My duty is to assist with the design of the parenting plan for after the divorce. This plan can include placement schedules and ways for the divorcing parties to communicate in a productive and harmless manner when approaching topics related to children. Many studies show that the more negative emotions that are present during the divorce process, the harder of a transition it becomes for the child.
What is therapy to professionals such as yourself?
Therapy has been given a negative connotation in the past, but it is simply a method of education. We use therapy to teach people how to reach the goals they set for themselves. We are guides there to assist people attempting to move through the emotions and obstacles with the hope of reaching those goals and admirations.
How can you help in situations requiring co-parenting?
We help clients to recognize the needs of everyone involved and help design plans that meet everyone's needs. Typically, this process is a simple one. However, there are situations where a certain parent may have more of a connection with the child than the other, and rather than view this as a negative, we can use this transition as a way for both parents to establish solid relationships with the child.
How can potential clients reach you?
1166 Quail Court, Suite 210
Pewaukee, Wisconsin 53072